I am taking my time. This is something new for me because I operate at high-speed, my Type A personality functioning best with lists, schedules, and immediacy. I return emails promptly, phone calls a.s.a.p. and strive to fix all problems with ingenious solutions. Breathing deeply is a struggle for me and sitting to relax usually results in immediate sleep because when my motor slows down, it just stops.
Recently however, I have come to a realization. Most situations are not emergencies. Most questions do not require immediate answers and most importantly, time is precious. So, I am taking my time. I am training myself to breathe first, listen more carefully and ponder more often. I have not come to this conclusion alone. I have had many mentors along the way both virtual and those in my real life. The books I read keep me focused on the importance of taking each moment as a special gift.
So if I take a little long to make a decision, to respond to an email, to text back and answer or to return a phone call, you now know why. I am taking my time.
It is amazing what a little breath can do to quite a heartbeat, improve vision, sharpen hearing and to enhance perspective.
Where does the time go?
I am searching for time. Recently I seem to be dwelling in an abyss of obligations, commitments and sleep deprivation. Time eludes me and when I do find it, it travels swiftly through the hourglass, reminding me of that old soap opera, The Days of Our Lives. How can I accomplish what I need to and what I want to? I am convinced I have to restructure time and set new boundaries for myself.
1. Limit time on the computer, specifically on social media. Computers are time suckers. They seem so efficient and helpful but in reality they are magnets that attract you and then hold you fast. There is no such thing as “quickly checking your e-mail.” To attempt to quickly do anything is to enter the labyrinth of the cyber world. Exiting is a tricky task.
2. Walk every day. Walking allows for time to think, plan, wonder, imagine and enjoy the world. Walking may seem like a time-consuming activity, but the benefits outweigh the time commitment. The benefit of good health, improved attitude and clarity come along with the obvious benefit of the exercise itself.
3. Learn to say “no.” Saying “no” in order to stick to your own plan and your own schedule is different from saying “no” just because you are selfish, or self-involved. You can help people, and do favors, but just learn to put yourself first and take care of your needs.
Three new rules are enough. They provide the structure I need and if there were more rules, it would just take too much time anyway.